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Slut Salon #2: the Stop-Hatin’ Edition

Yeah, this weekly phone check-in with my far-flung friends and fans is actually working out AMAZINGLY. Mona and Amy—both from Michigan, oddly enough—came out to last night's Slut Salon, and we had a great time!

As predicted by last week's salon participants, the conversation easily expanded to fill the new one-hour length. We started in New Orleans (background: I met Amy there when I joined the Krewe of Drunken Whores for a walking parade during 2011 Mardi Gras) and wound our way through Fetlife as an awesome online resource and community space for kinksters and sexually curious people (disclosure: Fetlife is a promotional sponsor of my tour, and they are AWESOME).

Pretty quickly we got to the question that I had wanted to discuss last night: who do you talk to about sex, and how does that work out for you? More and more I am struck by the feeling that I really do live in a sex-positive bubble, and that most people don't have space in their lives to discuss sex, even as adults. Mona and Amy had a lot to say on why talking about sex might be problematic for people, and what their own experiences have been in terms of being open with both old and new acquaintances, and what the various attitudes are, from envy to fear.

Made the jump toward the end to talking about woman-on-woman bitchiness around body size (that's called "fat hate" or fatphobia, y'all). Both Amy and I have had the experience of dancing and performing as larger women, and we talked about how other women's envy for one's perceived freedom from fear or restraint, in body size or sex or whatever sphere, often turns into horizontal hostility. "Why do you get to dance with your belly hanging out, or have as many lovers as you want, at your size? Why can't I do that? ... Well, if I can't have that freedom, no one can!"

So, yeah... this was almost an hour long and CHOCK full of good stuff. You can listen here...

Again, if you want to participate, take a look at my calendar here to see when the next Slut Salon is and then drop me a line at littleblackbookproductions@gmail.com to get the call-in details. There’s a four-person maximum, so sign up early if you see a date that works for you. I’m really enjoying getting to know you all!

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