Aristotle said when he was 80 that he was glad he no longer was bothered about sexual matters. It meant he could focus more on more important issues. Any thoughts?
Ethics, shmethics... View More
As a self-identified slut and sex-aware writer/performer, I have to take a step back and acknowledge that there are sometimes down-sides to the sex-positive movement, at least the stuff that gets mainstreamed. One of the down-sides is:
You’re supposed to want sex all the time, everywhere.
Never... View More
Do I have to identify as bisexual if I enjoy sex with men, but am otherwise totally, totally a lesbian?
With a sharpie in your hand, you can be anything you want.
It is one of the wonders of the modern age that... View More
Before I did phone sex for a living, I would have told you that I didn’t have a dominant bone in my sexual body. Didn’t want it, and didn’t think I could do it. But then I started phone work and I had to learn... View More
How do I get my wife to embrace her innate, wonderful, amazing ability to squirt? (Every time. it's amazing. but she's embarrassed.)
There are some things that I do during sex. I don’t even deliberately do them, they are just part of my array of physical... View More
The quandaries of festival sex: HOW DO I GET THIS GLITTER OUT OF MY CERVIX???!!!
If you’re having painful penetrative sex post-festival, and you feel pretty sure that extreme intra-vadge glitter is the culprit, I would get thee to a doctor and ask for their opinion.... View More
Is this scary? I think it's kinda cute... View More
A little splash-down is always considerate.
I love questions like these from the Fuckbucket. They give me license to rant from the mic about subjects that, out in “the real world,” don’t get much air time at all. Out in that world,... View More
Me as the Phone Whore. (Photo credit: Joseph St. Marie)
Nearly seven years ago, I pounded out a post about the weird, squicked-out responses that I got from people when they found out that I worked in phone sex. Those responses were... View More
I want to get more involved at kink events, but I'm too anxious and self-conscious. What can I do to ease myself in?
It’s not clear from this question if today’s fuckbucketeer means involved, like, being on the senior prom committee or involved like getting their... View More