From the Fuckbucket Tag

FROM THE FUCKBUCKET: What are some ways poly people make commitments to partners?

One interesting potential side effect of exploring polyamory is that it can bring people way down deeper into the question of “what does this relationship mean?” It doesn’t always—some people just don’t want to go that deep—but for people who are trying to pay attention...

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FROM THE FUCKBUCKET: “How to help a friend in a club, from a harasser, when she acts against that help?”

That sounds both alarming and frustrating to be in your shoes, watching your friend behave in a way that seems counterproductive, if not actually risky. Whether this is happening in a nightclub or a sex club—I can’t tell, and it doesn’t really matter—women and people...

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FROM THE FUCKBUCKET: “I opened up my marriage. I am having loads of fun, but he is not. How to cheer him up?”

Short answer: “Cheering him up” needs to be lower on your list of things to do. As with many Fuckbucket items, there is no context here, so I’m going to hazard a few educated and/or statistically probable guesses: This is a straight couple (individual orientations unknown),...

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FROM THE FUCKBUCKET: If you are a top in a consensual rape scene, does that mean you have rapist tendencies?

Is consensual non-consensual sex (e.g. choking or rape fantasy) anti-feminist? Then, if you enjoy the “consensual rapist” role, does that mean that you have rapist tendencies? Short answer: not necessarily. I firmly believe that no fantasies or consensual play are inherently bad, by whatever moral/ethical standards you’re...

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