I’ve had trans partners who want to call their genitals different names to penis/vulva. Do you have any sexy suggestions?
If there is one thing I’ve learned from eight years of Smut Slam, eight years of phone sex work, eight years of Sidewalk Smut, and a... View More
Is consensual non-consensual sex (e.g. choking or rape fantasy) anti-feminist? Then, if you enjoy the “consensual rapist” role, does that mean that you have rapist tendencies?
Short answer: not necessarily.
I firmly believe that no fantasies or consensual play are inherently bad, by whatever moral/ethical standards you’re... View More
The lack of lips on this model is not the problem. It's _a_ problem, but not _the_ problem.
I think the clean-up is terrible with a lot of these devices, but I don’t think that’s why people make so many jokes about... View More
As I’m gearing up for more Smut Slams in Europe (get in touch if you want one in your city), I’m thinking again about the Smut Slam Code of Conduct and the idea of safe(r) space in performance contexts.
Specifically I’m thinking about what safer space... View More
Me as the Phone Whore. (Photo credit: Joseph St. Marie)
Nearly seven years ago, I pounded out a post about the weird, squicked-out responses that I got from people when they found out that I worked in phone sex. Those responses were... View More
I’ve been on the sex-positive train for a long time, as a writer, performer, and sometimes-educator. People out in the world seemed quite happy and ready to pin that tag on me when describing a Smut Slam, for example, and when I looked over my... View More
A singer friend of mine pinged me a few weeks ago after having received feedback about one of her songs; in the song she plays around with the word “hooker” to refer to herself after a guy bought her breakfast the morning after. The feedback was... View More
Turning the sound off DOESN'T HELP.
… politics get loud and increasingly well-armed, and countries turn away refugees, and we still have nuclear bombs, and black lives don’t matter enough, and the rich get richer, and the poor vote for candidates who... View More
They can see the size of your dick through those panties, and they are laughing... View More
Click on the cover above to find out more about this amazing book. Chapter 5 is particularly relevant to any discussion of the BBC.
[Hi! At least a few of you probably got here by googling something along the lines of "big... View More