do I have to give you a piece of my cookie if I do? Okay, so first of all, DTR = Define The Relationship. I had to puzzle that one out. When I think about the questions that can come up in...
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Have you given up on guilt? If so, when did you do that? If not, why not? Generally I try to avoid both, but it happens. First, let’s clarify: guilt is not the same thing as shame. Guilt is when I feel bad...
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Sometimes I have no quibble with the actual sex tips in an article. I just can’t stand the delivery. Like this business: I am an aficionado of the kiss. No other act is so simple and so intimate. The light suction, the flick of the lip,...
View MoreWere you always so open about sex and sexual experiences, or was it something you became more open about over time? If it was over time, why? At this point I really am pretty upfront about most of it. Neither our ability nor...
View MoreI’ve talked about silence in dirty talk before, where we leave spaces in the narrative stream to let the heavy breathing and grunts and sexual tension do some of the work. But before we even get to the juicy bits, there are often other conversations...
View MoreSeriously, how to convince myself and any partners that safe oral sex, i.e. using a condom or dental dam, is totally fun and not paranoid and uptight and just no fun?! Do not google "dental dams" in your quest to sexify them....
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(This is the second article in an occasional series about Breaking the Fourth Wall in sex-aware performance. Here was the first.) I can see you! And that's WONDERFUL. I don’t always have a choice about lighting with Smut Slam, but when I do,...
View MoreShort answer: yes. Long answer: strap in, we’re going for a ride. For the sake of accuracy, I should point out that this question posits sexual orientation as being intrinsic ("nature"), by contrasting it with “lifestyle choice” (a conscious decision or choice, something that can be changed,...
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One of the craziest role-play scenarios I've ever done was to pretend that I was rich and eat fancy-pants fruit cocktail out of crystal goblets. It was just a little _too_ weird, you know what I mean? I am hard-pressed to answer...
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WHY do I always look constipated while I'm typing? I need to work on that look...
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