That sounds both alarming and frustrating to be in your shoes, watching your friend behave in a way that seems counterproductive, if not actually risky. Whether this is happening in a nightclub or a sex clubâ€”I canâ€™t tell, and it doesnâ€™t really matterâ€”women and people... View More
I dealt with this issue as a phone sex operator; now I'm dealing with it as a performer and host producing "sexy"-ish events. So I thought I'd lay out my thoughts about how to talk about sex with someone who is a sex(ualized) worker, outside... View More
I posted this Fuckbucket form on Facebook recently, and someone commented that they didnâ€™t understand why the fuss, if the activity was specifically requested. Another person responded with the quote in this post's headline.
Full disclosure: I know both commenters, so I've had or will have... View More
Is consensual non-consensual sex (e.g. choking or rape fantasy) anti-feminist? Then, if you enjoy the â€œconsensual rapistâ€ role, does that mean that you have rapist tendencies?
Short answer: not necessarily.
I firmly believe that no fantasies or consensual play are inherently bad, by whatever moral/ethical standards youâ€™re... View More
I consider myself mainly hetero and want to get to know how sex with another man is. How do I meet somebody and should I explain my situation or just pretend I am into men?
Online dating was MADE for people like you: you know exactly... View More
Y'all, I was too tired to put it down in writing, but this question from one of the Smut Slams kinda stuck in my head and made me want to respond.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIuySqKrmd0... View More
Good lord, yes. Here are but a few of the things that remain mysteries. I donâ€™t need to â€œsolveâ€ them, per se; I feel fine with leaving them in the realm of â€œother people like themâ€ or â€œnot important why.â€ I am also fine with... View More
I wonâ€™t say that I have absorbed anything dramatically new to my own pleasure/fantasy/sex/kink palate. (I assume youâ€™re talking about my years in phone work; Sidewalk Smut is very much the same kind of work.) Iâ€™m a little more curious about men in feminine clothing,... View More
You have to know how hot you like it, for starters.
Jump ship? Fan the flames? Re-invest? Redefine? The answer to this question depends on two things:
what you did when desire was strong, in addition to playing with that desire
what... View More
Any woman--doesnâ€™t matter which oneâ€”will be that much wetter, hornier, jump-your-bones-ier if you say one of these things.
Two "loves" and a "you are so tight" oughta be enough, right?
A cringe-y number of sex tip articles have this sort of premise at... View More