That sounds both alarming and frustrating to be in your shoes, watching your friend behave in a way that seems counterproductive, if not actually risky. Whether this is happening in a nightclub or a sex club—I can’t tell, and it doesn’t really matter—women and people...
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I dealt with this issue as a phone sex operator; now I'm dealing with it as a performer and host producing "sexy"-ish events. So I thought I'd lay out my thoughts about how to talk about sex with someone who is a sex(ualized) worker, outside...
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I posted this Fuckbucket form on Facebook recently, and someone commented that they didn’t understand why the fuss, if the activity was specifically requested. Another person responded with the quote in this post's headline. Full disclosure: I know both commenters, so I've had or will have...
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Is consensual non-consensual sex (e.g. choking or rape fantasy) anti-feminist? Then, if you enjoy the “consensual rapist†role, does that mean that you have rapist tendencies? Short answer: not necessarily. I firmly believe that no fantasies or consensual play are inherently bad, by whatever moral/ethical standards you’re...
View MoreI consider myself mainly hetero and want to get to know how sex with another man is. How do I meet somebody and should I explain my situation or just pretend I am into men? Online dating was MADE for people like you: you know exactly...
View MoreY'all, I was too tired to put it down in writing, but this question from one of the Smut Slams kinda stuck in my head and made me want to respond. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIuySqKrmd0...
View MoreGood lord, yes. Here are but a few of the things that remain mysteries. I don’t need to “solve†them, per se; I feel fine with leaving them in the realm of “other people like them†or “not important why.†I am also fine with...
View MoreI won’t say that I have absorbed anything dramatically new to my own pleasure/fantasy/sex/kink palate. (I assume you’re talking about my years in phone work; Sidewalk Smut is very much the same kind of work.) I’m a little more curious about men in feminine clothing,...
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You have to know how hot you like it, for starters. Jump ship? Fan the flames? Re-invest? Redefine? The answer to this question depends on two things: what you did when desire was strong, in addition to playing with that desire what...
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Any woman--doesn’t matter which one—will be that much wetter, hornier, jump-your-bones-ier if you say one of these things. Two "loves" and a "you are so tight" oughta be enough, right? A cringe-y number of sex tip articles have this sort of premise at...
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