First of all, I’m going to assume that you are jokingly using that nickname, because if you were really a prude you never would have come here or you’d leave at soonest opportunity. You can get into this party town and still...
View MoreThe erotic imagination lives in the brain, and you know what they say about the brain… It’s a muscle. Stretch it. Exercise it. Keep it flexible. It’s a channel for electricity. Throw out lots of synaptic points and see what connects. It’s hungry. Give it lots of food...
View Morewe're on "don't ask don't tell" for our sorta open relationship. I want to be more open about my feelings toward others, but he doesn't, even after suggesting it. I don't mind necessarily, but it's starting to feel a bit secretive. This is not a question,...
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My favorite spot is like this, only a lot darker and less full of puddles I don’t have one favorite spot; they all kinda suck, for one reason or another. I’m very much into creature comforts and so if I’m feeling the...
View MoreMy hottest epiphany was, in itself, not hot. It was the opposite of hot. It was the coldest that I had felt in my life up until that point, and it happened in my counselor’s office when I was rocking back and forth in a...
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do I have to give you a piece of my cookie if I do? Okay, so first of all, DTR = Define The Relationship. I had to puzzle that one out. When I think about the questions that can come up in...
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Have you given up on guilt? If so, when did you do that? If not, why not? Generally I try to avoid both, but it happens. First, let’s clarify: guilt is not the same thing as shame. Guilt is when I feel bad...
View MoreWere you always so open about sex and sexual experiences, or was it something you became more open about over time? If it was over time, why? At this point I really am pretty upfront about most of it. Neither our ability nor...
View MoreSeriously, how to convince myself and any partners that safe oral sex, i.e. using a condom or dental dam, is totally fun and not paranoid and uptight and just no fun?! Do not google "dental dams" in your quest to sexify them....
View MoreShort answer: yes. Long answer: strap in, we’re going for a ride. For the sake of accuracy, I should point out that this question posits sexual orientation as being intrinsic ("nature"), by contrasting it with “lifestyle choice” (a conscious decision or choice, something that can be changed,...
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