When people ask this sort of â€œhow do I know ifâ€¦â€ question, it usually means one of two things:
you want the thing to be true, e.g. you want to have a fetish, or
you donâ€™t want the thing to be true, that is, you... View More
I posted this Fuckbucket form on Facebook recently, and someone commented that they didnâ€™t understand why the fuss, if the activity was specifically requested. Another person responded with the quote in this post's headline.
Full disclosure: I know both commenters, so I've had or will have... View More
I wrote this piece years ago, as a way of laughing at how very and predictably single-minded many of my clients were about their phone sex preferences. In pursuing those preferences, their language was oddly specific, but also it was really consistent across demographics: the... View More
Two years ago I was still writing, at length and in various places, how polyamory felt like the right path for me. I was busily engaged in setting up some kind of love networkâ€”the â€œsailor in every portâ€ model, I called itâ€”and was having a... View More
I don't want to push them, I just want to beep at them... View More
I felt it two days ago.
It was with a regular I like. It usually only happens that way, with someone who I know very well and feel really comfortable with. It needs to be a fem-dom-type call, too, an interaction in which I am expected... View More
I've done Ask A Phone Whore columns, where I dip into the virtual mailbag and answer your questions. (That mailbag is open, by the way; you can throw your questions my way anytime, either here or on Facebook.) But I gotta say, I've got a... View More
Just a splash of red paint, and this doll would capture the feel of it... View More
A seven-minute request, I dug out the card... View More
Whenever I go on tour and become less available, he will forget me, but when I'm on call a lot, he's definitely a regular. His voice is mild, very low-affect, even when he's turned on. He likes to bring me in with him and his... View More