I have a new partner who is pretty shy during sex. She likes it to be dark and usually has her eyes closed. How can I encourage her to look at me/make eye contact? First of all, thank you for using the word "encourage"; that is...
View MoreA common question that I get about my time doing phone sex is, “Did you ever get stumped on a call?†That is, did I ever get a call for something that I knew nothing about or otherwise didn’t know how to handle? The answer, of...
View MoreWatching/being watched? Such a seemingly simple, seemingly binary question to pull out of the Fuckbucket a couple of weeks ago. In the heat of the moment, with fifty people laughing, I went straight for the answer that made the most immediate sense. Watched, of course. I...
View MoreFringe season has started, and with Fringe come the requests from publications who want to look like they’re being oh-so-active in covering Fringe productions, but all they’re basically doing is sending us lists of awkward/precious questions to answer and email back to them. It’s Fringe essay...
View MoreMy new girlfriend is super into me and vice versa. However, she is so much hotter than me, so I’m finding it hard to believe she likes me as much as she obviously does. How do I deal with this? Oh, my dearest Slammer. I am...
View MoreI couldn't post this last Friday, because the UK went slightly sideways after the genital erection, er, general election. It's still sideways, to be honest, but life and sex go on. Let's dig into the Fuckbucket! “Is it okay to invite my friend and her boyfriend...
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Save the candles for your survival kit. Visualize patriarchy on fire for maximum sexiness! DISCLAIMER: One of my main issues with religion or spirituality or those two years where I was getting friendly with tarot cards is that I always wanted that...
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“Why do you think people are so scared of fisting?†It is undeniably true that the general public is frightened of fisting. The act of getting one’s whole hand into one’s partner’s ass or vagina is usually one of the top items in the list of...
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Something I have to remind even myself: it's okay to be quiet sometimes. :D I think a lot of people get their notions of “dirty talk†from pornos, so no wonder it feels intimidating to learn. I mean, that’s a non-stop flood...
View More“How many dates before you bring out the strap-on?†Lovely Fuckbucketeer, let me put one thing out there first: surprise strap-ons are never the way to go. Anything penetrative and/or dick-shaped is usually going to be a strongly individual preference or anti-preference, shall we call it....
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